My'Emergency MINDSET Guide For Getting Body-Confidence FAST!'
A poll has revealed that 1 in 5 British women cancelled plans last Christmas due to body image concerns and low self-esteem and made excuses to hide at home instead.
Weight Watchers UK surveyed more than 2,000 women and found that nearly a fifth (18%) cancelled a social engagement last year.
The reason being? They felt too unattractive to be seen in public. The most common reason for cancelling their plans was that they were having a “fat day”.
“This research highlights that significant body image issues, particularly amongst women, are impacting how people lead their lives. Low self-esteem directly attributed to weight is evidently causing many women to miss out on fun and celebratory events.” Julia Westgarth, head of programme at Weight Watchers UK.
This breaks my heart to hear but I am not entirely surprised. I’ll be honest; over the years, I’ve been very tempted to cancel my own plans due to poor body-image. And even though I have now transformed the way I see myself, if my skin plays up it can cause my confidence to waver!
In October I went to a Halloween wedding. That morning, I woke up to two HUGE spots on my cheek (I’m not just saying that – I’ve suffered with acne on and off the past 18 years and these two were monsters!!). Concealer was not going to help me! I felt my heart sink and the embarrassment creep in. I allowed myself to have a ‘Pity Party’ for 20 minutes and then did my mindset work.
Whilst I wasn’t about to highlight my spots (they were doing that for me. Ha!), I fixed my hair so they were less noticeable and decided to just forget about them and have a great day.
So if you are tempted to cancel any plans this Christmas because you aren’t feeling attractive enough STOP RIGHT THERE!
Here is my '6 Step Emergency MINDSET Guide For Getting Body-Confidence FAST!'
1 :: Think of your 95 year old self
When you’re 95 will you care what you looked like at the Christmas party? Will you be wishing you'd been thinner, taller or prettier? Or will you wish you'd just had more fun in your life?
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain
2 :: Stop waiting for your ‘real life’ to start
How often do we say: “When I look _____, I’ll feel happier.” Sorry to spoil the ending for you but you won’t! Harsh but true. Stop putting your life on hold. Live now. This is your life - right here, right now!
When you reach your ideal weight you won’t feel any more confident unless you work on the real issue.
Which leads me on to the next point...
3 :: Your body confidence has nothing to do with your actual body!!!
It's all between the temples!
Yep! That's right. Your level of body confidence is all mindset.
We all know people who don't see their beauty. I've worked with many teens and adults who tell me how disgusting different parts of their bodies are. I literally don't see it! I don't get what they find so repulsive about themselves. That made me realise that perhaps I too was being far too critical of my own appearance.
There are people out there in the world who'd love to have YOUR hair face, nose, eyes, teeth, boobs, stomach, arms, bum, leg etc.
4 :: Zoom Out!
When we look at ourselves it becomes far too easy to focus on the parts we dislike. Instead take a step back and ‘zoom out’. Look at yourself as a whole package rather than just the areas you dislike. Then highlight your favourite features.
5 :: You're SOOOO much more than your appearance!
When you think about what you love about your best friend, mum or sister I can pretty much guarantee it has very little to do with their appearance. We don’t like and love people just because of their outer shell. We love them for who they are. Remember that. People at the social gathering want to be with you because of YOU and not because of the way you look.
6:: Use the F-Word
And no, I’m not talking about 'FAT'.
Do you want to go to the social gathering? If not, why? You need a reason better than: “I don’t like the way I look.” Or “I have nothing to wear.” Trust me, you’re going to feel a heck of a lot worse if you stay at home because you feel unattractive than if you get your gladrags on, pour yourself a glass of wine and say: “F@#k it, I’m going to have fun tonight.”
Send me some photos of you you all glammed up. Guess what...you really are much more gorgeous than you think.
Don’t let your Inner-Grinch steal Christmas.
Lots of love,
P.S. Wondering how you can transform the relationship you have with your body? I've created a BODY CONFIDENCE course just for you. It launches in a few weeks! Stay tuned.