I hope this finds you bubbling with health and vitality. My body is currently being a kickass ninja and fighting off the flu. I wrote this to send out to you last week (so you’d have more time to implement the ideas) but today has been the first day I’ve been out of bed for longer than an hour so it didn’t happen – sorry!
With Valentine’s Day just hours away, I know many women find 14th February a day they dread.
But we don’t need to have a partner to experience romance. And to be honest, I believe that we shouldn’t put all our happiness and romance in one person’s hands. That’s too much pressure for them PLUS you are missing out on so many other ways you can experience romance.
I want to share with you my top tips for finding love all year around. Whether you are in a relationship or not, on cloud 9 or not, this advice will help you.
Firstly, I want you to romance yourself! What does that mean to you? Everyone is different. Some people love the idea of flowers, chocolates, love letters, surprises, pampering, special dinners.
What do you need to feel loved? Do you require:
Perhaps you want all three!? Then I want you to give that to yourself. What we crave from others we actually crave from ourselves. Here are some ways that you can make your body, mind and soul feel special, loved, cared for and valued.
Write yourself a love letter and/or card and give it to yourself tomorrow!
Read gorgeous poetry, or better still, write a poem to yourself
Look in the mirror and tell yourself how much you appreciate yourself
Write a message on your mirror in lipstick, something you’d love to read
Record yourself saying something loving to yourself and listen to it
Buy yourself your favourite flowers (better still, have them delivered)
Save up and buy a gorgeous ring, necklace or bracelet and every time you look at it, let it remind you that you love who you are!
Take yourself off to your favourite coffee shop and have that cupcake
Bake yourself a cake or cookies – heart shaped of course!
Book yourself into a Spa
Treat yourself to something you have had your eye on. Get it gift wrapped.
Make yourself breakfast in bed
I love tactile people and my romantic side craves touch. There are lots of ways you can get this even if you are single.
Pet your dog
Hug your mum, sister or friend.
Give yourself a big hug
Book a massage
Book to have your hair done
Have a gorgeous bath with bubbles, champagne, candles and music. Feel the water all around you. Heavenly!
Take yourself on a date! It is great fun. Don’t worry about other people thinking you look like a ‘loser’. In all honestly, many people will feel envious of the fact that you are obviously comfortable enough in your own skin to spend some quality ‘me time’.
Try one of these:
Cinema to watch the film none of your friends are interested in
Take yourself on a walk and be present
Go to an art museum
Go to the beach (if you are lucky enough to love near one)
Visit a nearby (or not so nearby) city and explore
Take your camera out and get some great shots
Date a friend
When I was single, I used to ‘date’ my girl-friend on Valentine’s Day. We had a ball! We met for cocktails, exchange a card and pressie, went to our favourite restaurant and then to the movies. We loved it! I highly recommend it. Call up a friend and ask her out for a datenight. I guarantee she will love the extra romance. Who wouldn’t?
Receiving Romance from your Family and Friends
My mum buys me a Valentine’s Day gift every year. She came round earlier with some more supplies to help me fight this infection and bought me beautiful stationary and a mug with hearts on it. Last year she baked me heart-shaped cookies. Thanks mum! :-)
Romancing your Family and Friends
Who do you know that would love to feel special? Buy some beautiful cards or postcards and send them out to people you love.
Spot the romance in your life
Got someone who always texts when they know you’re struggling?
Got someone who pops round and brings your favourite snack?
Got someone who buys you flowers when you’re ill?
Got someone who offers to help without you having to ask?
Got someone who adores you?
If they aren’t all examples of romance, then I don’t know what is. Get spotting ALL the romance in your life.
Sending you so much love.
P.S. What better way to romance yourself than to give the gift of LOVING YOUR BODY? Module 4, is all about learning to Shower Yourself with Love and Date Yourself and I have over a hundred ideas for you. I’ve chosen to keep my Love Your Body online course at the reduced cost (for now) because I know how much it's helping people and I want more women to experience this sort of SELF-LOVE. Find out more here: